CULTURE VULTURE: Archive

You are so brave. I'm going through the same thing and it's encouraging to see all these posts, I think it's making me less ashamed. It would be nice to talk? But only if you want to xx

Thank you for writing to me :) I would love to talk anytime :) I feel it helps to connect with people who know the struggle because they are/ have faced it

xo

caroline

May 29, 20121 note

May 29, 2012595 notes

#stronger #fighter #keep going #i am stronger #i will fight #take it back #i am a fighter #date rape #rape victim

“Don’t internalize people’s negative opinions about your ability to speak up about rape culture. They are just afraid, ignorant, and uninformed. The people who want to say “shhhh” every time the word “RAPE” is muttered…are perpetuating the never ending cycle of Rape Culture. Even worse, they don’t know how LONG it has taken YOU to speak up.” —ME

May 29, 20123 notes

#speak #rape culture #culture #culture vulture #rape #victim blaming #society #life #ignorance #feminism

Rape? Your writing about THAT on facebook?

I have had countless conversations with people (usually ignorant men) who insist that “most women lie about being raped then the innocent man goes to prison”. Ok, while that could be true…a woman can lie…I would like to inform you of some things…

First of all 15/16 rapists go free, so you are an uninformed loser. Second, your entire culture perpetuates this idea that rape only …occurs when someone is have beaten to death. The rapists hear you say that. They know how to work the system. They know how to create situations that make the legal system say “well, she was wearing a short skirt…” “well, she was drinking….”

They know how to manipulate. They know how to coerce through emotion. They know how to rape a woman and leave her thinking “it was my fault” -

oh and to the people who have a problem with me posting this on MY facebook because “rape” is too serious of a subject for such a trivial website. If you have a problem reading this…skip over it or delete me…it’s my facebook and my right to post whatever the fuck I want.

May 29, 20125 notes

#rape #date rape #shhh #rape culture #victim #survivor #feminism #facebook #solidarity

reclaimyourvoice:

If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning, You are doing well.

If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job, You are amazing.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you are still remotely pleasant to others, You are a lot nicer than me.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend, You are still a good friend and a strong enough person to know what is best for you.

If you are healing from sexual assault, and find it difficult to care for yourself, but still find the strength to care and love your family than you are strong as well.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to tell your story, You are brave.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide that you are not ready to tell your story, You are also brave.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cry daily or have nightmares, You are normal.

If you are healing from sexual assault and seeing happy, healthy people makes you sad, angry, jealous and worse, Join the club.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you decide to press charges against your perpetrator,
You have incredible courage.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot or choose not to press charges against your perpetrator, Your perpetrator is still the one to blame, and you are smart for knowing what you can handle.

If you are healing from sexual assault and think that what happened was your fault, You are wrong, but you are not alone.

If you are healing from sexual assault and are jealous that some survivors put their abuser in jail, You are one of many.

If you are healing from sexual assault and feel like your significant other truly understands and is 100% supportive, He or she is rare and a keeper.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you have a good support system, It will help A LOT.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you don’t have enough people who understand what you are going through, I strongly recommend joining a support group.

If you are healing from sexual assault and were not believed or supported when you found the courage to tell, You still deserve to be heard, no matter how long ago it was.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you feel like you hate your body, Remember your spirit is held within your body.

If you are healing from sexual assault and feel painfully alone and isolated, Please know that there are thousands of people healing with you in spirit.

If you are healing from sexual assault and there are days where the only thing you are able to do is exist, Remember, we are existing with you till you can live again.

If you are healing from sexual assault but still looking to the future,
You are a survivor.

May 29, 2012260 notes

#if you are healing from sexual assault #sexual assault #healing #rape #date rape #survivor #victim

“The undetected rapists overwhelmingly use minimal or no force, rely mostly on alcohol and rape their acquaintances. They create situations where the culture will protect them by making excuses for them and questioning or denying their victims. Incarcerated rapists, I think, are just the ones who use the tactics that society is more willing to recognize as rape and less willing to make excuses for.” —http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/24/predator-redux/ (via feministsunited)

May 29, 2012264 notes

#rapists #mind of a rapist #culture #rape culture #victim #survivor

May 29, 2012214,446 notes

#rape culture #feminism #solidarity #take your pride back #gender #rape #date rape #victim #surivivor #slut walk

A Modern Sexual-Assault Tale

Man: Hello, I'd like to report a mugging.
Officer: A mugging, eh? Where did it take place?
Man: I was walking by 21st and Dundritch Street and a man pulled out a gun and said, "Give me all your money."
Officer: And did you?
Man: Yes, I co-operated.
Officer: So you willingly gave the man your money without fighting back, calling for help or trying to escape?
Man: Well, yes, but I was terrified. I thought he was going to kill me!
Officer: Mmm. But you did co-operate with him. And I've been informed that you're quite a philanthropist, too.
Man: I give to charity, yes.
Officer: So you like to give money away. You make a habit of giving money away.
Man: What does that have to do with this situation?
Officer: You knowingly walked down Dundritch Street in your suit when everyone knows you like to give away money, and then you didn't fight back. It sounds like you gave money to someone, but now you're having after-donation regret. Tell me, do you really want to ruin his life because of your mistake?
Man: This is ridiculous!
Officer: This is a rape analogy. This is what women face every single day when they try to bring their rapists to justice.
Man: Fuck the patriarchy.
Officer: Word.

May 29, 20129,367 notes

#rape #rape culture #date rape #victim blaming #slut shaming #feminism #life #solidarity #victim #survivor

“When somebody says, “I don’t think women should be raped for wearing short skirts, but what do they expect when they do go out like that?” what you are actually saying is that if a woman in a short skirt is raped, you will be less likely to hold her rapist culpable. Which makes a woman in a short skirt really appealing to a rapist. That’s something that you did. That’s not something the woman in the short skirt did, or something the rapist did. You made that woman a more comfortable target by making it clear that if she got raped, you would be less upset about it, less willing to see the rapist go to jail, less willing to support the woman. A woman is not increasing her risk of being raped by wearing a short skirt. You are increasing her risk of being raped by saying that women who get raped in short skirts should have expected that. Rapists hear you say that. By only raping the women that bystanders agree should be raped, a rapist reduces his chance of being caught and, if caught, punished. And that is why he will pick those women, over and over again, not because there is something more appealingly rapeable about them — they have what any woman has, as far as rape goes — but because he will be less likely to be held culpable for his actions.” —(via mollay)

May 29, 20123,066 notes

#rape culture #culture #society #short skirt #she asked for it #feminism #solidarity #slut #slut walk

May 29, 201229 notes

#street harassment #psst #baby #yoo #men #feminism #solidarity #slut

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