I was raped 4 years ago, in my home, while on a date. I dealt with extreme victim blaming and slut shaming by detectives. In an effort to survive the pain of the memories, I blocked out the events for 3 years. On a December night, I was triggered and my brain swelled up with memories from being raped. I tried to reopen my case, it did not work. I made this blog in an attempt to foster more discussion about rape, rape culture, date rape, victim blaming, and victim rights. I want to help save the next girl.
The undetected rapists overwhelmingly use minimal or no force, rely mostly on alcohol and rape their acquaintances. They create situations where the culture will protect them by making excuses for them and questioning or denying their victims. Incarcerated rapists, I think, are just the ones who use the tactics that society is more willing to recognize as rape and less willing to make excuses for. http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/24/predator-redux/ (via feministsunited)